How to Make Sure Your Emotions Are Working For You - Part Two
Gary Keesee • April 22, 2020
You can manage your emotions and take control of your life.
You don’t have to deal with mood swings, fly off the handle, or feel out of control.
Read Part One here.
So what happened?
The day we reached the breaking point and desperately cried out to God was the day He said, Take the time to learn how my Kingdom operates.
And that was when everything changed.
It was like someone flipped a light switch.
We could finally see.
We began to learn how the Kingdom of God operates, and it was like someone turned on the lights in a dark room.
You will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.
– John 8:32
We could see truth, and it’s the truth that sets you free.
And just like you have to introduce your mind to the truth, you have to introduce your feelings and your emotions to the truth. You have to introduce your mind, feelings, and emotions to what God says, and allow Him to govern them.
As we started to truly understand how the Kingdom of God operates, Drenda began putting Scriptures everywhere. She put them in the kitchen, in our bedroom , and even in the bathroom.
The Scriptures were our reminder that we were already free in our spirits, and that God was working on freeing our minds and our emotions as well.
You don’t have to deal with mood swings, fly off the handle, or feel out of control.
And you don’t have to try to pretend you don’t have any emotions or feelings.
Drenda and I both tried pretending. For years, we tried stuffing our feelings and emotions down, burying them, and becoming emotionally numb to everyone and everything. Trust us when we say that ‘Fake it till you make it’ doesn’t work when it comes to your emotions.
What does work is what we learned—
Now, Drenda and I want to share everything we’ve learned with you.
As a friend, we want to help you truly understand the role your emotions and feelings are playing in your life. And we want to help you make sure you’re managing them instead of letting them manage you, so you can move toward God’s best for YOU.
You CAN understand your emotions and feelings and use them the way God intended, to:
- Help fuel your relationships
- Bring passion to your daily routine
- Infuse your life with energy to help you pursue your God-designed purpose, manage your priorities, and discover His plans for your success.
Now, I also want to talk to you about the power of what you’re saying when you have certain emotions or feelings.
Pause for just a minute and think about what comes out of your mouth when you “feel” angry, or rejected, or disappointed, or frustrated.
It’s true. That’s why you should be very careful about what comes out of your mouth. Especially in those moments that your feelings and emotions are trying to get the best of you.
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Together, Drenda and I want to help you understand how important both your emotions and your words are. We want you to know the crucial keys that might be working against you right now. You need to know how to harness their powers!
That’s why we created an incredibly powerful mentorship package for you—Drenda’s book, Better Than You Feel, paired with my two-part series, Your Words, Your World.
I’m confident that these two resources—the Better Than You Feel book and the Your Words, Your World two-part teaching series—will change your life for the better.
Request your copies here!
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